There is a rather annoying game- where people play hard to get.
I don’t see the charm in pretending like you don’t care, when you actually care enough to pretend. How is it endearing to not return calls from people for a few days to make sure they don’t think of you as too available? If I get a call, I answer it on the basis of whether I want to talk to the person concerned or not. I can assure you my thought process isn’t, “Hm, I really want to talk to this person, but well you know, I don’t want him to know I want to talk to him. So let me miss this call and call him back next week.”
If I call someone who I have met only a couple of times, because I want to see where it goes with them, and they pull childish moves like pretending to be busy, I’ll stop bothering almost immediately. There is no pride in trying to pursue someone who appears to be disinterested. Especially when you don’t know even know their last name yet.
I am not advocating that you jump up and down with glee and answer everyone phone call with a high pitched Helloo and creep the other person out with your questionable enthusiasm, but I am also strongly against making people jump through hoops to test their interest in you.
I know a lot of people who “play it cool” I get that. What I don’t however get, is how people take this and run with it to a level where the other person is convinced that they don’t care and back off. This might work if you want the other people to take it down a notch, but if you don’t, you now have a situation on your hands where you’ve made your indifferent bed and now you’re going to have to lie in it.
“For well you know that it's a fool, Who plays it cool, By making his world, A little colder.”
Even the Beatles are making my case.
I don’t see the charm in pretending like you don’t care, when you actually care enough to pretend. How is it endearing to not return calls from people for a few days to make sure they don’t think of you as too available? If I get a call, I answer it on the basis of whether I want to talk to the person concerned or not. I can assure you my thought process isn’t, “Hm, I really want to talk to this person, but well you know, I don’t want him to know I want to talk to him. So let me miss this call and call him back next week.”
If I call someone who I have met only a couple of times, because I want to see where it goes with them, and they pull childish moves like pretending to be busy, I’ll stop bothering almost immediately. There is no pride in trying to pursue someone who appears to be disinterested. Especially when you don’t know even know their last name yet.
I am not advocating that you jump up and down with glee and answer everyone phone call with a high pitched Helloo and creep the other person out with your questionable enthusiasm, but I am also strongly against making people jump through hoops to test their interest in you.
I know a lot of people who “play it cool” I get that. What I don’t however get, is how people take this and run with it to a level where the other person is convinced that they don’t care and back off. This might work if you want the other people to take it down a notch, but if you don’t, you now have a situation on your hands where you’ve made your indifferent bed and now you’re going to have to lie in it.
“For well you know that it's a fool, Who plays it cool, By making his world, A little colder.”
Even the Beatles are making my case.
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